12.31.2012

Things to Think About When Setting Goals

Okay, so I lied. I'll see you one more time in 2012. Yay! right?!

I know I said this in my last post, but I love this time of year. New Years represents new beginnings, fresh starts, change for the better, and a chance to start over. (I feel like I just repeated myself in four different ways. Oh well...you still got what I was trying to say right??)

Since New Years resolutions and goal-setting is extremely popular this time of year, I figured I'd give you some insight on how to set them so they are easily accomplished.  Most people have dreams and big pictures of what they envision in life for themselves. Most people also write those visions down as their goals. Here's the big problem with that....they are overwhelming and seem too big to accomplish, so it's easy to give up. 

So, what to do??

1. Specifically identify your vision. It's easy to say "I want to be a business owner" or "I want to be a blogger". What kind of business owner do you want to be? How big would you want to get? What's your target market or audience? These are the kind of things that need to be identified first and it takes time to do this. Take 30 minutes over the next few days to think clearly about what you want.

2. Break it down. You want to lose 20 lbs? Make it manageable. Set the small goals to help you accomplish the big one. Lose 5 lbs first. Then worry about the next 5.  You want to pay off that $25,000 debt? Again, set the small goals. Do $1,000 at a time. I promise it will make the big goal seem manageable.

3. Write them down. And put them in a visible place, such as your mirror, desk at work, etc. That way you have a constant reminder of what you're working towards. And make it pretty. Who want's to look at a legal pad with notes on it? BORING. Write at the top what the big goal is though. You don't want to forget the ultimate goal you're working towards. 

4. Tell someone who's close to you, honest with you, and encourages you. That way they can hold you accountable, give you support when you need it, and be your all-around cheerleader. We all need them. Or tell the whole world. Whatever works for you.

5. Reward yourself for the small things. BUT make sure you don't reward yourself with things that are going to distract you from the goals. For example, if your goal is to get out of debt, don't go spend money you don't need to spend. Or if your goal is to lose weight, don't reward yourself with food. Go get a pedi or a new shirt instead. 

If I can give you one BIG tip, work your goals into your schedule. And don't let that happy hour or lunch date deter you (unless your goal is to be more social. then by all means, have at it). Working it into your schedule creates discipline, which we all know we need to achieve anything in life.

Also, be flexible on things you can't control. Sometimes things just happen that are out of our control. And that's okay. It's life. Don't view these obstacles as failures. They're obstacles. You can always re-focus and get back on track.

Last but not least, evaluate your goals every month at a minimum, or every 3 months at a maximum and see how you're doing. Change up your gameplan if you need to.

I've learned (the hard way) this year that nothing worth having comes without paying a sacrifice. Life's tough people. You have to give up something to get the bigger something. Accomplishing goals requires sacrifice on your part. My mantra this year it to live sacrificially. My life's pretty amazing right now, but I still want bigger and better (this means more to me this year than any time before because I hit the big 3-0 this year. which I'm not looking forward to. Those of you that have been there, done it...fill this girl in on some tips to gracefully leave your 20s behind!).  To get more fit, I'm sacrificing my social life to clock in the gym hours. To get better on the blog, I'm sacrificing tv time (which is totally fine now that Gossip Girl is over...but Modern Family, Nashville, and The Mindy Project have taken its place. So I guess its not totally fine). To save more money each month, I'm sacrificing Netflix and some dinners out. Are you getting the point I'm trying to make here?

Gah. It was so much easier as a kid when my goal was to get an A in science. Or to clock in more playtime. 

Here's to being a better person and having a better life! 

Happy New Year! 

3 comments:

  1. Great post, Blaire. Thanks for the tips on setting goals! #5 is especially true, I think!

    Happy New Year!

    xo,
    Christina
    behindbutterflyeyes.blogspot.com

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  2. Thanks Christina! I hope you have a Happy New Year as well!

    Love your blog!

    xo,
    Blaire

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  3. Love your blog, Blair! As an aspiring entrepreneur in the male-dominated field of math and science, I appreciate these posts! I'm your newest follower :) Feel free to stop by and follow me back if you get the chance!

    Happy New Year!
    Stephanie
    Diary of a Debutante
    www.stephanieziajka.blogspot.com

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