I'm just going to give you the heads up that what I'm about to say, I recognize I have it easier than some of you. I'm not a mom or a wife. I am a working woman though, who's involved in many different things. And this article inspired me to give my two cents. So agree, disagree, don't care, whatever you may feel is totally cool.
The title of the article is 'Why the Woman Who "Has It All" Doesn't Really Exist'. Can I get an AMEN already??? Having the career, the family, the body, the perfect dinner on the table every night, the spotless house and yard, and some sort of social life just doesn't work. Actually, let me back up...it does work. You can make it work because I've seen many women make it work. Here's the catch and what the author of this article is trying to say...to have it all means that none of the above things mentioned are going to be perfect or up to your standards (probably).
Why is it society places these standards on us? It's like you're supposed to be Heidi Klum, Anna Wintour, and June Cleaver all at the same time. I struggle with just the career, body, and keeping my house presentable. Throw a couple kids and a husband in the mix, and I can assure you one, or all, of the above-mentioned priorities will suffer. What is it about us women that feel this unnatural kind of pressure? Is there something in our XX chromosomes that I'm not aware of that puts this guilt and/or pressure on us? Is it just a type-A or borderline type-A personality that feels this? Maybe some of you don't care about it all. And have no clue what I'm even talking about here. But a lot of you do. I know you do. Or else there wouldn't be articles like the one referenced here in a major magazine publication.
I've struggled trying to keep the blog relevant because my job takes precedence over it. And the guilt is there. That I'm failing on something I want to do. That I've put myself out there to people who know I have this blog and it looks like it's not a priority to me. It is. It just isn't top priority. My body isn't where I want it to be yet. That IS a top priority. Certain things in my life are suffering because I'm living in the gym or planning out my meals for the day. The point I'm trying to make here is that I've had to define what is most important to me and not worry about the rest. Accepting the fact that I can't have it all and do it all up to the standards I'd like. And it's okay. Will the guilt and stress still be there sometimes? Yes. I'm human and I'm wired that way. And it sucks. I'll get over it though and do what I can. I'm not Super Woman. None of us are. There's a reason she's a made-up cartoon character. But I'm pretty dang good at the things that are of utmost importance to me and I'll take that.
What about y'all? Ever feel that nagging pressure of living up to certain standards you have placed on yourself? Or you feel society has placed on you?