My Top 10 Lessons from 2013

I don't know about y'all, but I'm ready for a new year. It's been a fun, turbulent year, but there's something about starting fresh in a new year that excites me! I'm ready for it. 

2013 brought a few little nuggets of wisdom for me to take along as I move into 2014 and I'm sharing them with you today hoping you may learn from them as I have. Maybe it's because I turned 30 this year, but things I've heard in the past rang true this year. So here they are…

1. Take risks and be aggressive with my goals and desires. 

As long as people don't get hurt in the process, going after what you want aggressively is a good thing. Sitting around and waiting for it to happen gets you nowhere. 

2. Don't let everyone's opinion change what I want for myself. Surround myself with a few people I trust and respect their opinions. 

It's easy to let others have an opinion when you publicly state that you may be bucking tradition and attempting something a little out of the norm. Their opinion shouldn't affect what you feel is right. God doesn't speak to everyone in the same way.

3. Embrace change. And change myself to go along with it. 

I don't like change. It scares me. But I'm learning that it can be a good thing. Plus this world is constantly changing and I don't want to be left behind.

4. Things will work themselves out. 

Worrying and anxiety accomplishes nothing. Will I still do it? Of course, I'm human. But I also want to recognize when I am so that I can channel my thoughts into something positive. So many things I worried about this past year worked out. And all those nights of restless sleep, tears, headaches, etc. were for nothing. Which brings me to my next lesson...

5.  Focus on the things I can control. 

Pouring my energy into circumstances that are in my control will help diminish the worry and anxiety that life can bring. 

6. Stop comparing myself to others. 

This has been a big one for me since I competed in gymnastics. But I'm truly embracing that we're all our own person. And we each bring value and purpose to this life. I'm just as good as the person I'm comparing myself to and they are just as good as me. I just need to be the best me I can be. 

*side note: don't ever change who you are to fit in. This was a big lesson I learned in my 20's. I know everyone says it, but actually buying it is a different story. 

7. Getting lost in something is freeing. Do it often.

Whether is be music on a drive, in a book, in a mall, etc., it can be extremely liberating to forget everything else in life but what you are enjoying at the moment. Live it up and take full advantage of those moments. 

8. Pour myself into the relationships that mean the most in my life. 

And forget the other petty stuff. Every relationship you have is different. Some bring more value than others, but all should bring some sort of value to your life. Invest in those that do and don't worry about the ones that don't. 

9. Do something out of my comfort zone. 

Take a risk. Do something you normally wouldn't do, but think you would love. I rarely do this and have realized in my life, the things I've gotten the most joy out of have happened when I took the risk. Will you always have success? Probably not. But you'll be stronger and when you do have success, it's that much better. Plus fear should not be an excuse. 

10. Let go and let God. 

He works it out. He always has for me and I have to believe He will continue to do so. I have a picture that hangs on my wall that says 'Let your faith be bigger than your fear'. That's my motto for 2014. And I believe it. 

So there you have it. Lessons learned going into the new year. 

Bring it on 2014.

Hope y'all have a fun, festive night! Happy New Year! 


  1. Love this, and love your blog! Happy New Year!

  2. This is great. I struggle often with worry/control, wondering how/if things will work themselves out.

    One of my favorite sayings is "In the end it will all work out. If it doesn't work out, then it's not the end."

    And another one that a friend told me was "Why worry? Can you do something about it? Yes? Then do it and stop worrying about it. Handle it and get it done. You can't do something about it? Then there's nothing you can do so stop worrying about it."

    I hope to bring these lessons into 2014!



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